I think you’d agree with me, if you’ve been in your business for any length of time now that the highs are exhilarating and sheer ecstasy…
And the lows?
Wow! Heartache, confusion and hand-wringing angst at a whole other level, right?
And the crazy part (crazy to the on-lookers) it’s self-inflicted! We’re doing it to ourselves!! I remember my mum saying to me more than once “why are you doing this to yourself?”
When you’re passionate about making a difference to others and you have that sense that this coaching business really is your calling, your souls’ purpose then of course, you endure.
The energy is powerful…
But what about those moments when you feel like enough is enough? When nothing seems to be working and you’re exhausted and barely have the energy to throw a decent meltdown?
What then? When is it time to quit?
Yesterday I was inspired to share my experiences, my personal close shaves with the whole notion of returning to corporate – you know, that “proper job” stuff that people talk about.
My inspiration came from a good friend of mine who started her business more recently and she was having those lurking thoughts and feelings of returning to being, in her words, a “wage slave” because she was sick of living hand to mouth.
Perhaps you can relate.
I know I’ve been there. Twice. Both times I got so far as applying and attending interviews for large corporates. As I attended the interviews each time, I felt defeated and desperately sad, as though I was a failure.
But it seems I needed to reach that point, they served me in a warped way, rather like the ice bucket challenge! The experience of walking into the rotating doors of a corporate institution, however pristene, sickened me to my core.
The experience served as a much needed catalyst, if you will, to re-focus and double down all my efforts in my business. The second job I applied for was offered to me and all I had to do was make a phone call to confirm my hours. As I dialled the number I thought “why would I give 36 hours of my week to an employer when I can give that 36 hours to my business?” And that call wound up being back-word on the offer and an apology for wasting their time.
Both times I emerged and went “all in” in my business and within no time, started getting clients again, making money, growing and learning at a whole new level.
You can watch the live-steam from yesterday below but this blog is about how to make that comeback, and get yourself from reeling and back to rising.
Understand first of all, that you didn’t get into this rabbit hole overnight. You’ve not been managing your state is all and so the downward spiral has been gathering momentum, making it harder to jump off.
I doubt I’ll be sharing anything new with you here, you know all this stuff BUT the point is, you’ve inadvertently spiralled and you just need to refocus and get yourself fully back in the driving seat of your business once more.
Fortunately, it starts here >>>
With an empowered DECISION.
You’re going to draw a line in the sand and make a decision that you’re going to start, right here, right now, to be a comeback queen (or king 😉 ), OK?
Here’s what you’re going to do.
Grab a fresh journal and go to a coffee shop or somewhere that isn’t your usual environment.
- You’re going to re-focus on your WHY. What makes succeeding in your business a MUST for you? If you’re thinking about the money you want to earn, then write about what that money will enable you to do and how it will aid your vision for your life, your loved ones and the peoples lives you can impact.
Get viscerally connected to a bigger vision for your life. What will you be doing? How will you be feeling? What will you be saying to yourself and what will people be saying to you? Have it fuel you, light you up and excite you. Feel the energy coursing through your veins as you connect to your purpose. If need be, spend hours in this exercise and really milk it for as long as you can.
- Next, you’re going to write a plan of action. That plan of action is going to start with the essential energy and mindset work. No fluffy affirmations that you just can’t buy into right now.
This is serious.
You’re going to list out everything you’re going to commit to over the next 30 days (to start with).
You can create two lists, first will be your energy and mindset work, for example:
- Daily exercise regime.
- 5 minutes of daily meditation and 5 minutes of visualisation
- Make a list of 10 things for which I’m grateful (and the reasons why I’m grateful for them) every morning and every night.
- Scripting exercise for 10 minutes every morning i.e. write a narrative of my dream life and bask in it, milk the good feeling of it
- Daily tracker of money coming in (what I focus on expands)
- 30 minutes or 10 pages per day of reading inspiration books
Add whatever other processes and techniques will keep you in a positive, optimistic and clear- headed frame of mind.
The second list you’re going to create will be your double-down efforts in your business activities.
Remove the emotion and create a system and a schedule that you can follow every day for the next 30 days (to start with). Ask for help and support from your family if you need to in order to stay on track
It may help at this point to re-visit your ideal client avatar. Write two detailed narratives – I call them The Hell and The Heaven narratives. Basically, this is a day in the life of your ideal client avatar before s/he works with you and then what life looks like after you. Pin them up where you can see them every day.
Business activity list:
- Decide on my service offers and fix my prices
- Join some new groups and re-introduce myself into my existing groups on Facebook where my Ideal clients are hanging out.
- Start adding value every day, in all the groups and all my social media platforms
- Write a daily long post giving value i.e “how to achieve xyz”
- Adapt it for my website blog and upload daily.
- Share it with my email list
- 1 video or live-stream per day on my social media platforms (LinkedIn; Facebook; Youtube; Insta etc)
- Show up and engage on other people’s posts – celebrating wins, giving value, answering questions.
Get really busy, getting really visible. Show up!! Share you knowledge, your expertise, your wisdom. Leave no room for your hang-ups or ickiness.
Truth is, nobody really cares because everyone is too hung up on their own ickiness and visibility fears!! If someone thinks you’re “too much” then GOOD!! It means:
a) you’re showing up in a really big way and getting seen and heard so mission accomplished
b) you’re triggering someone who wants to show up more but their battling with their own issues around visibility.
I’ll say it again, remove your emotion and create a system where you just get super visible and give so much value. Get in flow and Give! Give! Give! Before you know it, you’ll be enjoying yourself and you’ll start attracting everything you need to help you reach your goals!
And finally, of course, hire a coach or mentor. Someone who can guide you expertly out of your hole with more speed, efficiency and efficacy.
It all starts with a decision.
p.s you can watch yesterday’s live-stream here:
At what point do you quit?
Posted by Sanae Floyd on Monday, August 12, 2019
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