Money is a highly charged emotive subject. People feel guilty when they have it and shame when they don’t.
When I began to really study and understand money, I found it fascinating how we don’t think twice about asking our dinner guests about their health and their love life “So, how did you guys meet?”
But you’d silence the room if you asked them how much they earn or, heaven forbid, how much debt they’re in (and very likely not be invited back for dinner ever again!).
And yet the subject of money is pervasive.
The lack of it drives us nuts, makes us white with fear and when we’re not making it, we believe we’re failing… and the pain of needing it, and there being “not enough” feels so real.
And there’s so much STRESS!!
Truth is: If you get triggered and have negative emotions around your current money situation, it’s not the current money situation that is causing the triggered response and negative emotion…
It’s the other way around. It’s your response, and your negative emotion that is causing your current money situation!
How you feel about money, in other words – how you were taught to think and feel about money in your early years, is being manifested into your reality and then your reality is being continuously reinforced by how you think and feel.
Keeping you trapped in a repetitive loop!
Whatever the meaning you’ve assigned to money and debt is dictating your results.
I should know. I was in a toxic relationship with money and debt for 23 years.
The lowest point? £47,788 owing across various credit cards, loans, and overdrafts. And not a soul knew. I didn’t actually know either until I hit rock bottom and had to do something about it because I was in denial. My shame was all-consuming.
[Side note: I did clear my debts in just over 6 months after putting myself under the metaphorical microscope to reveal my money blocks. Results came in faster than I could ever imagine once I released my money blocks and it was a transformational experience. You can learn about my journey and my process in my book which became a #1 bestseller “Paid in Full: Free Yourself From The Burden of Debt and Live Your Best Life NOW!” by clicking on this link ]
So back to the point. Whatever the meaning you’ve assigned to money and debt is dictating your results.
This is so because your thoughts determine your emotions, your emotions dictate your behaviors and actions, and your behaviors and actions are determining your results and outcomes.
For example – if you have a belief that rich people are greedy – you’ve assigned the meaning that more money equals greed. Since you don’t want to be greedy, you’re going to self sabotage yourself from taking the necessary actions to grow your business and make more money.
For me debt meant I was completely useless, undisciplined and out of control. So it loaded with shame…And the more shame I had internally, the more debt I created. I attracted who I was being.
So if you’re unhappy with your results, it’s time to become more self-aware of what your thoughts and emotions are.
Let’s look at some common symptoms of money blocks that will need your attention:
❇️ If you’re constantly implementing strategies and yet not making more than a few hundred pounds/dollars each month – there’s a BLOCK.
❇️ If you see someone posting “Wooohoooo!!! I’ve smashed my £50k month goal!” and you feel jealous or defeated – rather than overjoyed and inspired – there’s a BLOCK (you cannot feel jealous and then expect to attract money – they’re two different frequencies!).
❇️ If you find it hard to talk about money on your sales calls when you’re presenting your solution to your prospect – if telling them your fees makes you feel uncomfortable and squirm – there’s a BLOCK.
❇️ If you think that you’re undermining your spirituality by wanting to make money and be wealthy – there’s a BLOCK.
❇️ And if you’re perpetuating debt and getting deeper year on year – there’s a BLOCK.
The way to transform your circumstances is to challenge the blocks, change your meanings and soften the emotional charge around money.
It’s the equivalent of bringing yourself into a neutral (healthier) state around the subject of money
Which removes the stress response from your nervous system and enables you to think clearly, objectively and empower yourself into a state of open possibility and positivity.
Since I have transformed my own mindset around money and debt and therefore my results, I understand the journey and it’s enabled me to more powerfully serve my clients.
The key steps to your releasing your money blocks are:
Awareness: Awareness is the first step to change so begin to operate with conscious awareness of your thoughts and feelings around money. You raise awareness by simply observing and taking a note of your frequent thoughts and feelings and get super curious.
I remember that during my “project” to clear my debt, it was the same time as my partners 50th birthday. In the past I wouldn’t have thought twice about going “all out” and spending on my credit card to ensure he had something really special for his big day. However, this time I had to confront the truth, and speak to him about my “get out of debt” (secret until then) project and basically tell him that I’m not going to be able to buy him much.
As I began to tell him, I noticed how the tears were pricking behind my eyes and I felt absolutely AWFUL to be having this conversation. His response was nothing short of what I’d expect from him, he was so kind and hugged me and told me that he’d be happy no matter what. But it was what was going on inside me that I became acutely aware of.
I asked myself “What are these tears about?” and I tuned in to the constriction in my heart and listened for the messages in these intense emotions. I realised that I was afraid of disappointing people and having to say “no”. It was that people pleaser part of me.
Feel to Heal: Whenever you feel a negative emotional charge in your body when you’re focused on the topic of money (in any of its forms), consider this valuable information.
As soon as you feel the charge, tune into your body. Place ALL of your attention into where in your body that charged stuck emotion is and allow yourself to fully experience it.
This enables you to dissociate from the feeling. It becomes a sensation in your body that you’re observing, rather than identifying with. It can feel extremely uncomfortable initially but trust me, as you practice this, and intentionally relax your body around the sensation, you will quickly free up the charge to move through you and dissipate.
This is so powerful and fast acting to neutralise those energetic blockages.
Rewrite your story: As your increased awareness reveals the limiting beliefs and stories that are keeping you stuck (and broke), you can rewrite them.
It’s simple. Just choose a new belief!! There are no absolutes so choose what you want to be true for yourself and focus all of your attention on it.
Initially, it may feel like you’re telling yourself a lie, but the more you focus and repeat your new story, you will experience a shift. The key is repetition and immersion. By immersion, I mean surround yourself with affirmation cards, post-it notes, a vision board of your new outcomes and journal on it everyday and think about it whenever you get the chance throughout the day. That’s Immersion!!
Seek the evidence: As you focus your attention on your new chosen empowering story/belief then actively and consciously seek evidence and references from your environment to back up your new story /belief. Your brain has an antennae that seeks out everything in your environment that is a match to what it perceives is important to you. If you’re intentionally focusing on “making money is easy” or “I am disciplined” you’ll begin to notice and attract matching evidence from your external environment and your experience.
This will strengthen your new stories and beliefs in both your conscious and subconscious minds.
This process works powerfully to change your perspective and as you clean up your internal fears and resistances to money, you can take aligned action and allow the clients and money to flow into your life.